Tuesday, February 14, 2012

A Letter to Birth Mothers:


Dear Friends,

By now, you likely have read tens if not hundreds of similar letters. We sincerely appreciate you taking the time to read this one as well. We hope it helps you get to know us a little better and understand why family (and adoption) are so important to us.

The two of us met during law school. Sara had previously graduated in Chemical Engineering and Tyson in Journalism. It seems like fate brought us together; Tyson had a desk next to a high-school friend of Sara’s and we were soon introduced. We started out as friends, then dated, and were married in the Bountiful, Utah temple after both of us had graduated and were working as attorneys. Tyson works at a mid-size law firm in downtown Salt Lake City and enjoys the benefits of being a partner. Sara develops and supports legal software. It is a unique position that allows her to work from home and gives here an extreme amount of flexibility. Tyson often says he is jealous that Sara gets to work in her pajamas and spend the entire day with our new puppy, Frost.

We both grew up in loving families and are fortunate to spend nearly every Sunday (and many other days) with parents, siblings, and other relatives, all of whom live close by. Our parents have always provided good advice and have been supportive in all we have done. Our goal is to do the same with our children; we want to give them the same opportunities that were given to us.

About five years ago, we attempted to start our family. Despite our prayers, and those of many family members and friends, coupled with nearly every medical treatment available, we were unsuccessful and our doctors concluded it was unlikely that we would ever get pregnant. The news was devastating. But we remain confident that we were meant to have a family. And now we are fortunate to have the opportunity to adopt and hopefully bless the lives of all those involved.

Despite our difficult struggle with infertility, we truly do live blessed lives, and have really enjoyed marriage. We own our own home in a wonderful neighborhood, have well-paying jobs we enjoy, take time to have fun together (usually movies, sporting events, and a variety of other activities), are active in our ward (we are in the YM and YW programs right now), have been able to take many fun trips together, and spend time with our family and friends.

Tyson is a sports nut. He grew up playing everything: baseball, basketball, football, soccer, etc. (and since his dad was often the coach, he got a lot of playing time). He is an avid skier, and also enjoys rock climbing and cycling. Tyson brags that, in high school, he went skiing over 100 times in the same year! But the one word that best describes Tyson is “funny.” Everyone around him is always entertained and laughing (or, at least, as Tyson puts it, he hopes so). One of the reasons Sara wanted to marry Tyson was that she knew he would make a wonderful father – the kind that would be excited to coach little-league teams; show up to all school events, performances, and games; be eager to spend hours playing with their kids; and would be full of love. Sara likes to tease Tyson that he has a ‘fan club’ in our ward – he is like a kid magnet and kids come over to talk, borrow books, get tutored, or even ask him to ride bikes or play soccer.

Sara is full of surprises. She can cook, or, when in the mood to use power tools, can rebuild an entire deck. She can craft or teach math to college kids. When it comes to service, there are few better. She is eager to offer kind words, a listening ear, or even a meal if that is what is needed. At the same time, she never hesitates to (try to) destroy Tyson in foosball or Just Dance 3. In looking for a wife, Tyson wanted to find someone he loved and someone who would serve as an excellent example for their kids. Sara is that person. She is smart, well educated, and represents all the qualities you would expect in a great mother. She is a great example to everyone around her. And to think, all of this from a chemical engineer, computer programmer, and lawyer!

We love going to sports events together, whether it is college football, college basketball, baseball, soccer, or even rugby. Admittedly, Tyson probably enjoys this more than Sara, but Sara loves spending time with Tyson, so it works out well. We also enjoy going to the movies, musicals and plays, and even the symphony on occasion. Admittedly, Sara probably enjoys this more than Tyson, but Tyson loves spending time with Sara, so it also works out well. We like to travel, play games, and spend time with loved ones. We cannot wait to share these experiences with our child.

We have been hoping, praying and preparing for a little one. We believe we have much love and many opportunities to provide. We also know that many others (including family, friends, and neighbors) have been hoping and praying along with us. A family in our ward recently told us that their 8-year-old was upset when his parents forgot to pray for “Tyson and Sara to find a baby” during their prayer. So cute. It is stories like these that make us look forward to finally adopting a baby and having a family.

We recognize the difficult decisions you currently face. A child truly is a miracle. It is our hope that we can bless you and your child’s life through adoption. To the extent you desire, we will keep you updated with news and pictures of the life and opportunities we can provide; we understand the importance of an open adoption. So thank you. Thank you for taking the time to read this letter. Thank you for taking the time to learn more about us. And most importantly, thank you for your consideration in helping us start the family we know is waiting for us.

Sincerely, Tyson and Sara

(p.s., thanks again!)

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